WAT - I'm not sure exactly what you were getting at about what I wrote. I was trying to share an experience that I had with "exposure" and meant no harm. I thought feedback was the idea, but apparently my feedback was not correct - sorry.

I guess what I really want is confirmation that this whole sorry affair is over and maybe I can move on. For me, confirmation that he wasn't lying about this trip is something positive. The fact that she knows that I am watching is positive. I know she was lying for the most part, but she did give me some more clues, which point to the fact that my husband does seem to be telling the truth about some things.

He is neither defiant or overly humble. That is why I feel so confused about what is fact or fiction. I do know that he is holding back and I was careful not to present those issues to her. As I said, I was not in any way mean or disrespectful to her.

Maybe part of me just felt the need to speak directly to the other person who was involved in breaking my heart, as a sort of closure for me personally. If anything it made it more clear what a flawed human being she is, when I had built her up in my mind. Would I recommend it to everyone and do I know where it will go from here. NO! One thing is for sure though - I can sleep a little easier tonight even though my WH is gone.

Wait a minute! Don't jump to conclusions!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I was trying to share an experience that I had with "exposure" and meant no harm. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It was good experience to share!

Why did you think I thought it caused "harm"????

I said I thought you did a good job! I was just warning you to not take as truth anything the OW said. These are not creatures known for their integrity.

So, calm down, OK?

WAT

WAT - Sorry I did have a post, but somehow lost it. Basically I trust very little right now and I AM sorry if I thought you were being sarcastic. My antenna is a little out of kilter these days and I was not being fair to you. I guess I am just plain insecure about what I should be doing sometimes and I feel like I get more criticism than praise - my problem not yours. Basically I'm looking for the criticism so I find it - whether it is there or not. Sarcasm is one of my WHs weapons so I'm probably more sensitive than most. I'm not crazy - really:)