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I shattered her world
#448762 06/17/04 05:34 PM
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One night of excessive alcohol, sex with another woman (not all the way but does that matter?) and the resultant guilt i had was incredible. After confessing a few days later her world was just torn apart. How can I help her (and me) deal with this? i love her with all my heart but i think i also know her well enough to know she will never feel the same way about me ever again.. I am just devastated
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#448763 06/17/04 09:32 PM
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you sound just like my hubby. try to spend time with her, do things just the 2 of you that you know she would enjoy. tell her what happened, because believe me, the worst thing is seeing you making love to a super model, and she is probably seeing that image over and over in her head like i was until he sat down and told me what happened. if you had a strong relationship before, she will eventually forgive you, promise her you wont do anything else like that to hurt her, that you see how much pain you have caused, and stick to it! if getting drunk causes you to do things like that, only get drunk while the 2 of you are together. good luck.
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#448764 06/17/04 10:45 PM
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Talk,talk and then talk some more.
The one thing I needed most from my FWH was to know the truth because of his lack to do this it has caused a very slow recovery.
Answer ALL her questions even if they are embarrassing to you.

I say if drinking is a problem then dont drink.This is a big issue in our relationship he tells me everyday that he will stop drinking but it has not happened it only seems to be getting worse.
What is more important to you HER or drinking??
By my H telling me one thing and doing another it is the same in my eyes as telling me that I dont matter.
Show her she matters.

Best of luck to both of you.
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#448765 06/23/04 01:11 PM
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Being here asking shows that you care. My husband cheated on me and it was/is the worst thing that someone can go through. No doubt about it. I've always felt like my H never really understood how bad he hurt me and that still hurts six years later. Even though he "said" sorry, I didn't "feel" it from him. Do you understand what I mean? Say it but make sure she feels it. Not only words, but actions will let her know how sincere you are. If you are truly sorry it will show. Good luck and give her time, patience and understanding. Let her vent. I strongly believe people can overcome infidelity, but only if both are willing to work through it.

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