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H was sent e-mail quoting song title by Hall and Oats "your kiss is on my list of the best things in life" and signed her name . What would you do ,call her, e-mail her ,let it go and believe my H .Stomach in knowts - feels like dday all over - we've been in R for over a yr. and he did all the hard work - even renewed vows in Nov.
Am I back to square 1
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Hmmm. How did you get access to the email? Has WH been showing any other signs?
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I've always been able to get in his e-mail. Since in R for a yr. ,check periodically (every wk. or so ) just to reassure myself. No other signs. He has started traveling with a new position and really thought I was handling that pretty well. He'd call at night always and thought he really understood what I needed to feel safe . Now I wonder . if you saw that e-mail , what would you think ? be honest
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It would worry me, and I think your gut is telling you something...what it is, I don't know. I have been on the suspicious side though to let you know where I lie.
What I have been telling my H when I find something fishy is that the burden of proof is on him. He says I jump to conclusions, but I thinking my conclusions are reasonable given the circumstances. Can he prove to you that there is nothing going on? Is he giving you a line about it being an errant email??? Very rare, do you get them?
I would send an email back to the address with the copied line and say with little or no emotions that the email must have been a mistake, this man is married and it didn't get to the intended person. It could have been an errant message, or she could have not known H was married...Fishing? or maybe she was caught...
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Do you know the person who sent the email?
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That email would be a red flag for me....not enough to prove anything, but definitely enough to ruin your peace of mind. Do nothing right now until you have more proof....but keep your eyes and ears open for a little while. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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Send a reply e-mail posing as your husband. If he really doesn't know who sent it, then he shouldn't mind if you do this, but be honest with him. Tell him it's bothering you, and you'd like to follow up on it to make yourself feel safe, and does he mind?
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