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Question 4 former WS's
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My WS says he loves me but not the same way he use too.... what the hell does that mean?

He says he's searching for answers and this is about him, not me....

Anyone have any clues... he has broken down to tears the last 3 nights.... says he needs to get away from the pressure and responsibility of all of this... Someone help me... anytime I get close to him... he just pushes me away... I'm so lost and confused... help me please.

He says I'm not in love with him... either... says he's my obsession?
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Remember this...ALL WS SAY THIS!!!

It is the World famous Wayward spouse line...i love you but NOT in love with you...

You are at the beginning of a rollercoaster ride of your life. Start reading and get as much information about WS, BS and OW. All WS show the same behavior and symptome. The same goes with each BS and OW. The same!! So you are not alone.

You are feeling very very lost and confuse because you dont know what had happen and why it happen and how it happen. So many questions and no answer. To get yourself in the right direction you must learn and understand what, why and how affairs start, continue and end.

Dont worry too much now and start learning. Read all the postings and articles in this site.

Hugs to you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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I have read and read and read. This is actually a step forward, because before he didn't love me at all. It's been seven months since I found out about his affair. He's continued having contact with her... I've done as good as I could do with plan A. I've tried plan B, I just can't stick to it for any length of time, because he ends up living in his car and I feel bad about that. I guess my major problem is consistency... Plan A is was fairly easy, but the longer this A lasts the harder that gets to do. I'm just really to my breaking point. Thanks for the advice, and the hugs (that I really needed).

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