My former H sent his girlfriend two separate shipments of gifts, but somehow nothing for his kids. I had gotten them something from "him", but still...what a jerk!

{{{{{{{{{{<B>kate31</B>}}}}}}}}}},<BR>{{{{{{{{{{<B>kate31</B>}}}}}}}}}},<BR>{{{{{{{{{{<B>kate31</B>}}}}}}}}}},<BR>{{{{{{{{{{<B>kate31</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>I'm sorry for you...<BR>I hope gifts to kids from H are just late...<BR>I'me pobably being naive... (I've been naive too many times before.)<P>You are a great mom...<BR>especially for getting gifts in him name...<P>Merry Christmas... I pray for better days for you... <P>Jim

Kat31-<P>They can and are so insensitive sometimes.<P>This is awful!! Your XH is still very full of himself and in selfish mode.<P>It is a crying shame that your children have to suffer because of this.<P>It was incredibly wonderful for you to buy something for the children from him. You are a great mom.<P>Praying that your life makes a change for the better soon.<P>Cheryl

It's amazing how you bought things for the kids and had to act as if they were for him. How could he put her before the kids? He's lost it, right now. Unfortunately this will only hurt his relationship with the kids. Kids aren't stupid, they know who's there for them.<P>Hang in there and hopefully he'll come to his senses befor he loses, not only you, but the kids as well.<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<BR>

{{{{{{{{{{{{Kate31}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Good for you. Did the same thing when d was little w/ stuff from her bio dad. Don't regret it a bit. She figured it all out soon enough.<P>Hang in there. <P>Lori

kate31,<P>All I can say is what Steve Harley told me..the affair is about the betrayer 100%. They are thinking 100% of themselves and their own wants, desires, needs and pleasures - 100%.<P>How sad to not even have a few ppercent for your kids. My H never called here and never bought one gift for them. We had already agreed to give joint gifts and I always do all th shopping. He never buys any gifts except for me and I got none this year, so he just had to buy for the OW.<P>I asked him to take care of ONE gift - to get my son a motorcycle helmet he had asked for. Onn Wed. before Christmas, he told he he had gone to the mototrcycle shop and didn't buy the helmet because they come in hat sizes and were not returnable, and he did not know son's hat size and son was out of town. So, he told me he was going to go back to the motorcycle store and get a gift certificate folr the exact amount for the helmet and son could go in himslef and get the right size. <P>Well...did he do it???NO Did son get the gift certificate????NO Did H go and buy the d@mn gift certificate????NO<P>I asked him to take care of ONE freakin Christmas gift and he LET ME AND SON DOWN. Did he even bother to let me know he wasn't going to get it even though he said again on Wed he would take care of it????NO<P>I HATE this selfishness and total self-absorption. I do not think they realize they are losing the respect of their children.<P>H's D called last night to wish us a Merry Christmas. She lives in another state and does not know we are separated. I was embarrased and probably rude to her...I didn't know what to say and was trying to rush her off the phone before she asked to speak to her dad and then I would have to tell her we are seperated and then of course she would ask me why...What am I supposed to say????? I am tired of "covering" for his sorry @ss! If he thinks he is doing the "right thing" then he should be shouting his love and righteousness from the rooftops!<P>I am sorry for venting all over you thread...there is probably no stopping me today. I am going to take a break here in a little while and try to focus on something more constructive than this....<P>Roll Me Away<P><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>