My wife of 14 years wants to separate. She said that she does know if
she loves me the way a wife should love a husband but that I am still
one of the most important people in her life. She is in her 2nd affair
in 1 year. She said that she knew if she did it again it would be over.
She also said that it is not me and that I am a good man a husband but
that she is the problem.--My wife has a low self esteem and a poor
relationship with her father which also effects her relationship with god.
She likes attention from other men, she likes when they flirt and that
she needs this. She has really pulled away from me and does not want to
seed counseling. She said that she wants to go to a personal counselor
first. She said that she does not know if it is over but that I need to
move on with my life and maybe we will get back together. Our
relationship with god has not been that close for the past couple of years and I
know that is part of the problem. She said she is at a cross road in
her
life and does not know what she wants anymore. How am I suppose to
treat her. Should I be nice all the time knowing what she is doing. Do I
hold on. The bible says love your wife but what do I do. What next move
on or hold on for a while. She wants a six month separation and we will
see but no counseling. She is also drinking with her friends and that
is part of the problem.. I am confused and feel foolish for holding on. She says that maybe we will work out but do not get my hopes up. She needs her space and that is hard to give when I am losing the most important person my life.How should I act toward her. Compliment her, hugs and a kiss on the cheek. How can I make her want me again. She says I a good guy and deserve better--blaa blaa blaa.

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