Is anyone experiencing a problem with their spouse and cybersex?

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What is your story?

You don't even want to get me started. Feel free to read my thread.

Welcome to my nightmare.

I just discovered by h having a cyber affair

loyalty,
My H started a cyber affair as well. Within 4 months in turned into a full blown A. Get help with it now, or it will only escalate. Give us more info, we'll help all we can.
Hang in there.

Hello

Well it started awhile ago when he claimed he was going to the gym. He was returning smelling like cigarettes. I always questions regarding it and he said the person he works out with smokes. That was a little too suspicious for me. It turns out, as I was driving one day I saw his car parked in a ratex xxx video store. I confronted him when he returned and he had nothing to say. We also broke up regarding this. But I felt my family was too important for me to let it go because of this incident. He has been different towards me since this incident. he bare speaks to me doesn't call me at work and doesn't email me; the weekends come and go; its almost as if he were having an affair. I decided to seek counseling for both of us; As our appt approached he and I talked things over and he said he wasn't going. Things were much better since. But as I was working on my computer I discovered these cites linked to yahoo where he was he in the adult chatroom and also viewing via webcam. I confronted him again. I asked him to move out. We haven't spoken since the incident and he claims that I invaded his privacy. He's trying to turn the cards here. He said very degrading things to me and I don't think they are repairable.

Loyalty,

Your husband is pulling the typical "guilty spouse" card. I am a FWS. When I had stuff to hide, I totally freaked out on my husband, claiming invasion of privacy. Now that we are recovered and I have nothing to hide, I never feel like he is invading my privacy. He has access to my accounts and for all I know, there is still spyware on my computer (he installed it while trying to get information). As I have nothing to hide, I don't care if there is or not.

Your husband will keep trying to turn this into your problem, but know it isn't. You have to do whatever is needed to protect yourself. You can't protect yourself from what you don't know.

I'm sorry to hear what is happening in your life. I don't have a lot of wisdom, but know I'm here to listen, if needed.

Michele