I feel like I'm dying inside. Literally everyday is a struggle to function. I found out in March that my h had been going to strip clubs and had lied to me about it for a couple of years. He told me he had only been about three times but I don't believe him. Oh Lord, I am totally broken, worse than anything I have ever experienced in my life. I keep thinking I will get stronger and grow to accept it, and we can get past this but I am fooling myself. I feel so betrayed and hurt. I thought I meant more to him than this and now I realize I didn't mean enough. If I had he wouldn't have crossed this well-known line. He couldn't have taken the risk. He travels alot with his job and I can't see anyway of working this out but I can't see life without him.

Also, at the shows he works, they sometimes use "models" to help distribute the literature. It supposedly doubles the exposure of the company product. I found out they were calling escorts supposedly for the modeling position.

He swears on his life that he has never been with anyone...or had any kind of dance at the strip clubs. When I think about all the stuff I have been told over the last few months...I don't believe it. He is on his knees with his hat in his hand ready to do anything to make this work, but all I feel is hurt and struggle with fighting the tears back. Does anyone have any ideas about getting through something like this?

For years I have tried everything imaginable but now I think its just gone too far.

Thanks to anyone who replies. nothingleft

Welcome to marriagebuilders. Keep reading and posting here, and see if your husband will to.

Your marriage seems very hopeful to me, as your husband at least wants to work on it.

Stick with us, and we will help you get through this. Also you might want to post on general questions, as there is much more traffic there.

Thanks believer, I will try general questions.
nothingleft

IMHO - I don't think this is a big deal..To me it's a "man thing"..I never mind my WH "looking" but unfortuntely he's past that now.

I've been to many trade shows and yes some companies hire models to help sell their products. Don't jump to conclusions that your husband is with one on them. Many of these girls do thier job and go home to thier SO. I've traveled with alot of guys ( I was the only girl) and yes some have been known to stray or attempt to stray - but, there are still alot of good guys that don't do anything but look and flirt alittle to boost their ego. I'm sure many of the wives were wondering if their husbands where taking shots at me. As long as you dont' see any difference in how he is treating you, or have true reasons to believe he is straying let him have fun with the "boys"...Just keep your finger on the pulse...

Don't be afraid to show your husband "your sexy side"...

This is a Troll, right? If this is the biggest problem you can come up with, consider yourself lucky. The fact is, most visits to "Strip Clubs" are nothing more than male Bonding Events where the guys hoot and yell, have a beer, and then go home. Ask your husband to take you with him some time and you can see how silly (and harmless) it all is.

You need to loosen up a little.