Here is my story.

Dating 18 years, married 8 years. Just had a kid - she's one. Discoverd him cheating recently, he says he never meant to leave me (as did the OW as she is married) but I think he is in love with her. He says it has been going on about 3 years (I had to force that out of him as initially he said it was a brief affair) I found out after discovering that they have a place together can you believe that. They have a small house about half an hour out of the town centre which they have decorated alike it's home. I know because I have been there. This I found out when mail to them was accidentally sent to his office address and I was in his office.

He tells me it is over but I don't think so. Initially he told me that family is very important to him so he broke it off with her but I think he is in love with her and would leave me and everything to be with her if she agreed. He is physically here with me but I think his mind is elsewhere. I ahve always thought we had a loving relationship but I guess I was wrong. we have been together about 20 years - how do I get him back or am I misreading him. SUrely he should more of an effort to win back my trust and show me he loves me - what do I do?

Sweeney,

Which leg are you pulling? Are you the young married woman who thought she married the wrong man, or are you the poor betrayed wife whose hubby has a love shack just outside of town?

You can't have it both ways. You can snow us one way or the other, but running two stories at the same time, well, that's pretty much a dead give-away.

Troll Alert has been issued. If you have an explanation, I'd love to hear it!

~ Snow