I just found out that my H of three years has cheated on me once again. The first affair developed from an Internet chat room with someone in ANOTHER D...COUNTRY WHO DOESN'T EVEN SPEAK VERY GOOD ENGLISH!! When I first discovered the emails, he said that he got 'caught' up in coversation..we went to counseling and all was good...several months later after he had moved to another state for his job and when I finally moved five months after he was there, found an old phone bill with her number...called the number and got my friend who speaks her language to translate...he had not told her he was married, had spent money to go see this girl..she was devestated and sent me all the emails...I was pregnant and after his apologies and gifts, etc...I stayed.
This newest A...started only 6 months after the last one ended...he received a call on new year's eve on the cell..of course, me being an investigator...jotted the number down..didn't call immediately...i started checking his vm and she was on there everyday...i confronted him...'it was only conversation' he says...although i new he was lying based on her vm...so he said he would end it...now, it is one year later...i went to visit my parents over the weekend..i grew suspicious checked the reliable cell on Sunday...there was the OW number..the same chick...I called her up and she talked to me this time...found out he didn't tell her he was married, had flown her to the different states we've lived in and she even sent me email correspondences between the two....he has told so many lies that I just can't believe I'm married to this person. He takes VERY good care of us so I am just so surprised.
I am so hurt that he would bring another woman in our bed and even took her to see the new dream home that we are closing on next month! Now...he is crying, begging, etc, etc...my first instinct is to leave..i am seeking counseling for myself only...I just need some advise from people who have been in this situation.
