Well, here I am in just found out again! D day was Oct/2000. Now I learn there are at least 7 more OW throughout our 31 year marriage. Wow was I gullible or what. Just when I think it's all right to consider counseling again and a possible reconciliation I discover this! I look back now and can clearly see it. Why didn't I see it then? Of course H says only one was PA. I think he's still lying. Can someone please agree with me that it's time to quit trying?

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<small>[ January 25, 2005, 02:05 AM: Message edited by: *blondblossom* ]</small>

Hi Primrose,

How did you find out about the other 7 women if WH is denying it?

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He admitted to "inappropriate behaviour" with each, but a PA with only one. This definition is coming from a man who brings his (EA)OW from Florida to Tx to meet her(for the first time) while I am away taking care of my sick mother. He brought her in our home along with her 2 yr old child. BTW he still claims this one was only an EA yet she stayed for 3 days. This is how I can justify calling them OW's.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by blondblossom:
<strong> "step back" and to do all you can for yourself and then to let your husband do his "homework".

If your marriage is as important to him as it is to you, you will for sure find out but only if you "step back".
This might get your husband "thinking" and it will definately make you interesting.

Other than that, I would say "counceling" for yourself is a must. You have alot to cope with.
Do this for "you"!!! No matter what outcome your marriage will have.

hugs
bb </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree. It's just been hard to think about myself. Things have only just now slowed down for me. I moved out in Oct/03, had knee surgery two weeks later, and my Mom (and my best friend) went home to be with the Lord in November. My brother and I sold her home (our childhood home) in June. We closed everything out on her estate last week. I finally have only one thing on my plate, me! So I have become kind of lazy over the last few days and I've rested. But now it's time to make a decision about divorce. I thought I would give H one last chance to repent and face his past with a confession of the truth. But unless he has a change of heart that doesn't look like it will happen. As far as counseling, we've done that until everyone that counseled us refuses to continue until my H gets serious about changing his behavior. I may get some individual counseling.