I know it’s hard, you will get through this, remember your not alone. Are you talking with him?

Feel free to ask or even just vent. Sometimes it’s therapeutic to bitc&.

Oz

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> I know it’s hard, you will get through this, remember your not alone. Are you talking with him?

Feel free to ask or even just vent. Sometimes it’s therapeutic to bitc&.

Oz </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">yes i have talked with him and everything he tells me i find it very hard to beleive because of what he did.I want my Husband all i have to do is say "Come Home" but i am not going to do that because he has to learn his lesson and it is very hard but i am calling it "TOUGH LOVE" because he has to feel what i am feeling or a sample of what i am feeling I know he can not feel my pain because he caused this pain. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

((I understand.))

One word of caution, your not allowing him home could leave him with ample opportunity to be in contact with the OW.

I’m not suggesting this is happening, only that it is a possibility you should factor into your thought process.

Are you still as depressed as last week?

Eating anything?

Oz

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> ((I understand.))

One word of caution, your not allowing him home could leave him with ample opportunity to be in contact with the OW.

I’m not suggesting this is happening, only that it is a possibility you should factor into your thought process.

Are you still as depressed as last week?

Eating anything?

Oz </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i am doing a little bit better than last week but still just taking it day by day i am eating some i ate a lot for the holiday he called me today and asked to spend at least the weekend together i don't what to do? i didn't give him an answer yet i am still thinking about it. but when we went to dinner last week i was stil upset so that did not make it fun at all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

You’re going to need to release some of that anger and yes on him. If he is prepared to take it I’d say tell him how you feel.

I can’t tell you what to do about the weekend, way back when I couldn’t stand for my W to be away from me, even when at the time I loathed her.

It’s good to hear your eating and things are better even if just a bit. Anti-D’s can help, I was amazed at the difference they made in me when I finally swallowed my pride and went to the Doc. Just a thought for the future if you’re finding it hard to cope.

Have you given your H any of the material from the site to read?

Oz

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> You’re going to need to release some of that anger and yes on him. If he is prepared to take it I’d say tell him how you feel.

I can’t tell you what to do about the weekend, way back when I couldn’t stand for my W to be away from me, even when at the time I loathed her.

It’s good to hear your eating and things are better even if just a bit. Anti-D’s can help, I was amazed at the difference they made in me when I finally swallowed my pride and went to the Doc. Just a thought for the future if you’re finding it hard to cope.

Have you given your H any of the material from the site to read?

Oz </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Reading Harley's principals could never hurt.

Oz

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Reading Harley's principals could never hurt.

Oz </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i know, i might present him with a lot of material that i have read and to see if he is willing to read all of the material and then tell me about what he read. You know i never thought about giving him the material that i have but thank you saying something about it. : <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

You’re welcome.

It might help him understand some of what you are going through. Hopefully it gives you both some insight on what went wrong and how to fix it, if you choose that route.

Oz

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by oswald:
<strong> Hello and Welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself here. Talk more when your ready.

Oz </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">hi oz just checking in how are you doing?