I will be 34 this March and have been married for 4 years and together with my husband for the past 6 years we have no children together but I have 3 boys Chris 17 David 13 John 10. We had a very hard time when we first started living together as far as trying to blend him into our family. We finally started working things out and I thought we had arrived at happiness and then my world just crashed. I found out on my 3rd yr anvis. he was having an affair. He has done this in his past relashionships and I'm not sure he won't do it again. He was married to his grade school sweet heart and did it to her and lost everything. I thought he had learned how hurtful it can be. I am truley dying inside and feel everything I loved about him was a lie. I don't even know if I'm in love with him any more. Is there anyone out there that can relate and give some advise. The women he had the affair with works with him and she must be crazy because even after he picked his family over his relationship she just will not stop calling me and reopening the wonds. I want out but don't know how to tell him. I also don't want her to win but is that a good reason to stay with him? How do I get passed the hurt and find the love I had for him? It seens as time goes by I need him less and less and I just can't help but feel I may be wasting my time. I keep thinking what if I found someone who could love and care for me they way I want to be loved and cared for.

Hi and welcome to MB,

Sorry to hear of your painful story. Right now, please read the concepts section above, books: Surviving an Affair, HIs needs/Her needs. Both are by Dr W. Harley.

Also read the book Love Must be Tough by Dr James Dobson.

Get with a good MC or do some phone counseling with Steve Harley here @ MB.

There are a lot of tools here to help you. Start by reading.

Post back your thoughts.

take care,
L.