Has anyone had this happen? If so, some advice on dealing with it would be appreciated:

I found out on Friday that my wife had an affair - one encounter with her best friend's husband over the summer. She agreed right away to No Contact, and I believe that's likely the end of it.

But, last night, she tells me that she has an appointment set up with a math tutor at college. I look at the appointment form, and see that she does indeed. But then, I notice that the tutor is a guy. Immediately, though I don' say anything, I start ascribing all kinds of ill motives to everyone involved - when really, the odds are pretty darn good that what is going on is a simple math tutoring session.

And I guess that's the thing that I find a bit frightening: I find myself looking askance at even the most apparently innocuous interactions.

Keep in mind, this is a relationship in which, until Friday, I had complete faith and trust in my wife. I've never been the jealous sort, who would tell her to find a female tutor or that kind of thing.

Any thoughts on this? Is it normal? How do you get through it?

Andrew,

You sure are a lot more calm a few days after D-Day than I was.

You should go out and purchase Surviving an Affair (SAA) and read it, post-haste, if you haven't already.

Unfortunately for us, the trust is something that has to be rebuilt.