I have been reading alot of the posts about us BS being mad at the OP and of course our WS. Which I have to admit I ain't too happy about the situation. But...sometimes even through the anger, disappointment, tears, etc., my sense of humor comes through. I was sitting there the other night doing my housewifely things that I normally do (mostly laundry) and I thought. Wouldn't it be funny to start shipping every single day my WH dirty laundry to her at work? Not that I would, but....their relation had to do with not dealing with the day to day stuff. Anybody else out there, thought about some funny things that you wanted to do?

I have had many bouts of humor through this whole thing and think it helps.

The one thing that I think about after reading here every day is Why are we the "BS" in this situation.

I would like to propose that we change to BK (betrayed King) as in my case and BQ (betrayed Queen)in yours.

Keep laughing it is the best medicine.

I can now look back over the last several years, and especially now the last year when the EA was going on and thought about all the times I was overwhelmed and frustrated while he was living in another city and working with this woman, and I was 200 miles away, dealing with two school aged kids and selling our house myself. If I had only known that I could have access to two extra set of hands and her time and effort. I could have really used it. After all if she was sharing my husband with me in those respects why shouldn't she have to share the crap parts that go along with it? Right? How about when the tire was going flat? Or when the cars needed inspection and he was TOO Busy. OR...I have a conflict with the kids' schedule? Or how bout when he "reamed" me up one side and down the other for walking out of the house without the cell phone (the one he bought for her and let her use for several months before we moved)and all he wanted was for me to check on some amusement park tickets. Which by the way, he could have done himself on the brand new computer I went out and bought him. He could have had her do the admin work. Gee....if I had only known?!