</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ITHURTS:
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As I look back 12 years I see (and hey, I could be wrong) but I see a man that is a sexual predator - preys on MW - weak W - loney hearts. My WH was M to first W 2 times - then someone else for about 6-9 months - S probably 5-8 years -I'm now his 4th W. He probably cheated on all of us...One of the OP he's been seeing - he had an A w/ 14 years ago - her BS confronted him - funny, she's back in the picture - was she ever out of it - I doubt it...

At this point I don't think by staying that I am giving up "everything"..I'm giving up alot yes - but I will take alot while I'm here too..I'm becoming vendictive..I never deserved his A's, it would 1 thing if he had a ONS or he had 1 that he truly feel in love with..but, that's not the case..there are many..he has hurt many people here not just me and I will fight for what I believe is right financially. That's where it will hurt him for a change..He'll recover $$ and knows that - but I won't make this easy.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok.

I know that I may not be making the right decision by staying till one of us file for D and that I'm giving up true freedom/happiness to find myself or true love - but right now it feels right for me. I know in my heart if I walk out the door he'll put up the wall and show that he doesn't care - "she left me" - he'll be the good guy in all this mess. We both are at fault - though, I own mine and he refuses to own his part..Whatever..

I feel I've been deceived/used for many years - at was all a front for him. He needs a good shake and if it comes from my making him miserable by not leaving, shutting him out and going for the $$$ - then so be it..I won't be happy for quite awhile - but, when you have been miserable and you are learing to live with it - it becomes easier very day..

Thanks for your support - I'm sure you'll see me on here for awhile..

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ITHURTS:
<strong> I know that I may not be making the right decision by staying till one of us file for D and that I'm giving up true freedom/happiness to find myself or true love - but right now it feels right for me. I know in my heart if I walk out the door he'll put up the wall and show that he doesn't care - "she left me" - he'll be the good guy in all this mess. We both are at fault - though, I own mine and he refuses to own his part..Whatever..

I feel I've been deceived/used for many years - at was all a front for him. He needs a good shake and if it comes from my making him miserable by not leaving, shutting him out and going for the $$$ - then so be it..I won't be happy for quite awhile - but, when you have been miserable and you are learing to live with it - it becomes easier very day..

Thanks for your support - I'm sure you'll see me on here for awhile.. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ITHURTS- as I said before- only you can decide when enough is enough. My best wishes for you!