So..my wife and I talk this morning about whether we should chnage her cell number. When we talked about this last week, she seemed ok with it. This morning, though...she seemed reluctant. She argued since the OM would most likely try to call her on our home phone, we'd be better off having that number changed.

After some negotiating, we finally decided to change both of them.

But here's the kicker: my wife tells me that there is no point changing the cell number, because the OM knows that those numbers are logged - as are numbers that the user of the phone calls.

Anyway, my wife tells me, "I'm not stupid, if I wanted to do something, I wouldn't use a cell phone. I'd find another way."

I know what she meant, but now I'm thinking....what other way?

Just the kind of thing that a recent BS wants to hear, huh?

Hello,

I think she meant she would either use a pay phone or simply buy a phone card and it could not be traced. I don't blame you feeling upset. It sounds like she has given this thought for possibly the future. I would feel very uneasy also. I wish you luck.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by AndrewA:
<strong> Anyway, my wife tells me, "I'm not stupid, if I wanted to do something, I wouldn't use a cell phone. I'd find another way."</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree with Bryanp, but I have another spin for ya. Maybe she is being honest with you on this and you have to admire her being forthright about it, don't you?

Get both the numbers changed, if for anything, your peace of mind.

Hi Andrew,

More than likely, what your WW was referring to as the "other way" are pre-paid phone cards. They are VERY popular among affairees, widely available, and leave no trace. At up to 8 hours/day talking w/OM, my wife racked up some serious charges. As Stanley so aptly pointed out...affairs are expensive!

Phone Cards - My WH has been using them for awhile now...Though, he didn't realize a minute is a minute with a cell phone...so when the dummy was using his phone cards the cell phone bill showed the phone card number.hahahaha..Thinks he's so smart...DUH.....The person he is calling doesn't show - but just using the card shows he's still involved in A's...When I told him this - which was dumb on my part - he stopped using it from his cell...Wonder what his next sneaky trick will be...

Remember you can always hit redial on your home phone and if she's using a calling card it may say - please enter your access code..then you'll know if she's using one. Though my WH makes sure he calls another number - and if he's OP calls our house he calls out and asks one of his friends to call him back..We don't have caller ID - but, I';m sure he'd erase it anyway..

I hope your wife can earn your trust back - she may just not want the hassle of a new cell number..

Hey, having been the detective of my husband's affair. The thing they did was, when her spouse discovered they were using her cell phone. My husband went out and bought her a cell phone (the one he eventually gave to me) and now she has a new cell phone. I know this is vindicative, but I hope they end up having to pay through the nose for each cell phone that gets discovered and forces them to get another.