HELLO EVERYONE,
IM NEW TO THIS SITE,SO PLEASE BE PATIENT WITH ME.
I AM A 32 YR OLD WOMAN WITH 3 KIDS HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 12 YRS BEEN TOGETHER FOR 16, WE WERE HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEARTS. I JUST FOUND OUT 2 MONTHS AGO THAT MY H HAD AN A. I DIDNT FIND THAT UNTIL AFTER HE HAD MOVED OUT OF THE HOUSE. (WE ARE LIVING APART I HAVE MY OWN HOME AND HE HAD COME BACK TO OUR HOME THAT WE BOUGHT TOGHETHER BUT IM STILL LIVING AWAY). HE DOESNT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT HE THINKS THAT ITS JUST GOING TO GO AWAY. THEY WORK TOGETHER AND SO FAR HE HAS CHANGED HIS SHIFT TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER BUT IT DOESNT. IN MY HEART I KNOW HES STILL SEEING HER BUT HE DOESNT WANT TO BE A MAN AND JUST TELL ME. HE SAYS WE CAN GET THRU THIS BUT I DONT KNOW IF I CAN I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME THAT I LOVE HIM AND I REALLY DO I DONT WANT TO BE APART BUT IF HE IS STILL WILLING TO LIE TO ME AND NOT TELL ME THE TRUTH IN ORDER FOR ME TO MOVE ON THEN WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO..JUST GIVE IN.
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Welcome to marriagebuilders. The place for you to start is Plan A. You can read all about it on the link in my signature line.

It is not good that they are still working together. Also he needs to do some things to make you feel better, and not just ignore the problem.
But he is very typical by wanting to sweep everything under the rug.

Keep reading and posting here, and we will help you get through this.

Beyond that, click on the link in my signature line. It will give you some more details that are very helpful.

<small>[ October 17, 2004, 02:23 PM: Message edited by: johnh39 ]</small>

mishele,

We hear you!! You don't have to YELL.

Keep coming to this site. Vent, ask questions, read the material.

MB really helps you understand whats going on...even though you maybe don't want to know.

k

Mishele, I feel your pain, I also am suffering from Husbands affair... It doesn't go away it's like a addiction one which we will never understand trust me. I had false hopes thought it would end easily but he's still in contact with her for various reasons each time he caught. Continue to be strong and follow your gutt - if you think for a minute he's in contact with her then you are right, each time i had that feeling it was true. They want us when they have her and her when they have us., it's such a horrible position to be in - I understand how you feel and what you think.. Each day brings a new challenge for me which I have allowed. When he left in April to another state I allowed him back into my life with many promises he would end affair and she would go away... to date he's still in touch with her -- it's my fault and I realize I have allowed this to happen., I have allowed him to play the game., the time has come for me to be the strong person I had become when he left his wife and teenage sons for trash which is basically what I think of her.., no self respect for your own young children or husband. OW has gone for divorce and walked out of her house and children, even asked husband to sell house and make kids move in order to get her share of the money, now what kind of a person is this? He is not getting any kind of a prize, he will lose in the end. Stay true to yourself and hang tight, don't allow him to control your feelings... follow your heart and sole..... something I should have done and read all you can... Keep posting it has helped me greatly and will you also.