One of the things that I have read in all of the self help books and literature is not try to make sense of out of what the WS is saying. I will try to tell you, that's a difficult thing to do, since my S has always been up to this point pragmatic and logical. When of the things that came up in our discussion the other night was the he said to me "I NEVER thought I'd grow old with you." HMMMM. Let's see, he was married before and this is a second marriage for both of us, and what I was just this interim wife until he found a new victim? It's laughable. I wander when he was going to break this news to me? And what about our kids. If I was just an interim wife, why bring kids into it?