I think I posted here about a phone call I got from the Other Spouse on Saturday. After that phone call, I sent her an email, saying that at her request, I won't talk to her any more about the details that I have learned...but that I WILL continue to contact her husband - at work if necessary - if he contacts my wife. I made it clear in the email that this would be my last word with her on the matter.
Anyway, I get back an email yesterday that was a bit stunning: the OS suggested that she didn't really care all that much about the sexual aspect of this. (Her husband told her it was just for "fun," though he told my wife that he is deeply in love with her.)
What SHE was pissed about is that my wife had apparently told the OM that HIS wife was in love with someone else. This was supposedly a big secret that the two of them had shared. The OM used the revelation as an excuse -he basically said that he decided to make a play for my wife because he was so hurt by the revelation.
I forwarded the email to my wife, who was LIVID. She said that the conversation about the alleged love interest didn't happen until a couple of weeks AFTER the incident (sex). And, my wife said that she simply told the guy to "open his eyes" and that he discovered the identity of the love interest on his own, by rummaging through the house.
My wife was so mad, that she very nearly broke NC herself and called to yell at the guy for telling his wife that she had prompted this by talking about the love interest. Fortunately, she calmed down, and didn't contact him.
Anyway, I'm not really sure what to do or how to handle this. I have to say that I am a bit bewildered by the suggestion that sleeping with someone's husband isn't as bad as revealing a secret. Also, I feel like someone shoudl explain to the OS what went down, and encourage her to take a hard look at how honest her husband has been.
It's good that my wife maintained NC. Should SHE email the OS about this? Or should we simply let it lie and continue to move on?
