My husband and I haven't talked since Monday and he just left me a voicemail that told me he was going home to visit his grandmother who had some surgery. I called him back because of my concern for his grandmother and asked him if he wanted a companion for the ride. He told me that this is something that he needed to do by himself. I told him okay. I also told him that I needed to know where he and I stood and he told me that he didn't know. Since he gave me that answer, my response to him was, "I do love you and I hope that you're able to get through the addiction of your affair." He didn't respond to that and I told him to take care on the drive up and give my love to grandma. And I hung up. I'm so very confused! I hurt all the time especially when he and I don't talk. I do miss him and I don't know if I'll be able to get through all this. I'm trying to be nice, no outbursts or judgements but it's so difficult. Seems to me that I need to begin a Plan B but I'm afraid that if I start this Plan B of no talking to him he'll take it as a sign that I don't want to even try to salvage our marriage. Right now, I don't know if he's cut contact with the OW - he hasn't told me and I haven't asked. It's been over a week since I found out first-hand about the affair.

dream,

Plan A has some specific things that should definitely be completed before EVER going to Plan B. So please let me know what you've been doing to accomplish those things because I know that you have not put enough time into this Plan yet.

hugs....I know this is terrible hard. Please read my response to Ali88 about biochemistry...it might help you understand your husband a little better.

Please put a timeline in here so we can help you better.

blessings

It is very difficult to do a good Plan A, but it is necessary, and the best way to save your marriage. You are way too early for Plan B.

Try to take care of yourself, and do things to keep your spirits up. Don't take his behavior personally, as they mostly do and say the same things when they are having an affair.

When you are going crazy, come here and post. You might want to try the general questions forum, as there is more traffic there.