I thank Dobie for helping me so much... I have made an appointment for myself for tomorrow for counseling and referral to psych for meds. WH has been acting extremely loving to me the past few days. Still refuses to do a no contact ltr or call. He swears to me he has had no contact, but I am still unsure. He changed the password to his e-mail, erased the #'s from his cell, etc etc etc. But the way he looks at me when he tells me it is completely over, it just melts me. It seems like I have to believe him. How can I let go and believe this? He already lied to me once about no contact..... He swears to me that he loves me and wants only me and the boys (our beautiful children). He told me that he had fallen out of love with me, but now that this has happened and he saw how much I do indeed love him that he has regained all of his love for me that he had on our wedding night. Can I trust this?? Any advice and help offered is so much appreciated!

<small>[ November 16, 2004, 12:04 PM: Message edited by: ama75 ]</small>

Good job on getting those appointments!

But I wouldn't trust him saying its over. I know that's what you want to believe. But his words say one thing and his actions say another. How can you tell a WS is lying to you? His lips are moving. Yeah, that's a terrible thing to say but it's so frequently true. See, right now his ideal scenario is to have both you and her. And if he can get that by lying to you, he will.

Have patience, but don't put too much stock in what he's saying.

You will be able to trust him after many months of seeing his words and actions be consistent. You have seen zero DAYS of this, so far.