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Should I tell WW that I have a PI on the case? any ideas
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I've been posting under "I need help, been lurking for a while" see that thread for the whole story. Anyway I thought I'd throw in another post/question. A with OM is still going on and I'm going to buy SAA tonight. My question is should I tell WW that I have a PI on the case gathering evidence in case Plan A/B doesn't work and we have to do the big D as part of exposure? Or should I just expose with some facts, pics, OM house address? And not tell her that I have a PI? Any thoughts anyone?
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I'm no expert, but IMHO, until your W accepts the horror of what she is doing, she will not accept you spying on her. IMO you should execute plan A ASAP. It seems to me that you have a PI to protect your interest and children in case Plan A/B does not work, I think that is just plain smart. Good luck and God bless.
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No, the PI is your secret weapon right now to give you the concrete evidence you need for a full confrontation.

Do whatever you can to protect your "sources", even when you confront. But, I implore you, don't confront until you've read SAA, and/or consulted with people here on the forums.

Make copies of all evidence and keep them in a secret hiding place, and use copies for the confrontation. You don't want your evidence to be destroyed, do you? You may need the evidence for divorce, but hopefully, it's purpose will only be needed for confrontation. Hard facts are hard to dismiss or lie about.

Remember this is a long, tedious process. Stay calm and pace yourself. This is going to be an ongoing project for months.

SD
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