This sounds like a good thing, not a bad thing.

It sounded as if it was not acceptable that she lost her fellowship.

Just wanted to chime in and say I haven't been here long, less than a month, man you have a huge hurt to deal with, you will feel so many things as I did and still do, but go slow and give yourself the breaks you deserve, and let yourself feel your feelings and try not to judge yourself, what a crappy thing was done to you. I will send good thought your way and take this journey with you as I am soooooo new also. Thanks for posting, I think each post helps all of us in some way, sometimes little and some times big but it all makes a difference. So many good people here, you have come to the right place.

Great week-end --lousey sunday night. it seems i'm the only one trying to fill her emotional needs--sometimes wonder if i'm doing the right thing?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">sometimes wonder if i'm doing the right thing?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And you'll wonder that for awhile. The point being, would you want it any other way ? At least this way, you'll know you did YOUR part.

Give it more time...it's your best friend right now.... It's still early yet...a lot of feelings you're still dealing with.

I don't know if it helps, but I think you're doing the right thing.

What the future holds...only you will know, but for right now...you're doing the right thing.

Hi LC -
What made part of the weekend great, and Sunday night lousey?

Do you mean you are working to meet her needs, but she is not working to meet yours? If so, I would be down too.

In some areas, you can ask your Bishop to refer you to LDS social services so you can get marriage counseling. I know this is availible in some areas but not others, you would have to ask.

Have you filled out the EN surveys, and do you know each others needs?

Remember, part of this is learning to be the kind of people we ought to be anyway. When we are married, we ought to do the things that make the other happy. They ought to do what makes us happy.

If you learn to meet her needs well, you are making progress yourself, no matter if she responds correctly or not, but I bet she will.

Remember too, you have choices - you decide if you want to stay or not. You have freedom. If you want to restore your marriage, we will try to help, but you are free to choose.

You said once that she was the one that was supposed to be strong in the church -

Do you believe in God? Do you think being more active in church activities would help your marriage?

Can you tell us a little more about your background and how things are going now?

SS

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