Hi Sheba,<BR>I was thinking of you and some of the others here and decided to see if everyone was okay, or at least maintaining. H and I are on the mend. I think we have it this time! I thought we did several times before and we slipped back into the soup. This time though I decided we would fix it or end it! No more hurt and crying. I am tired of it and he KNOWS it now! He has been super! My old sweetie. Sometimes he slips and I bong him on his "attitude".....so far so good! How are you? Thinking of you often.<BR>Love, Karen (and what about tnt.....she was in trouble the last time I was on here) Take care....

Hi Alleyoop -<P>I am so glad to hear that you two may finally be on the right track with each other......I hope and pray about you guys all the time!!!<P>I am doing OK, I guess!! I have had the need to stay off MB for some lengths of time.....just to refocus on other stuff with my mind. I needed to really clear my head to be able to get through the holidays with the enjoyment that I wanted for myself and I made out pretty good in that respect.<P>I am ticked off the last day or two - stupid really, but H didn't even come see "his baby" (the dog) and give her the big bone he always made such a big deal about that she always HAD to get at XMas!!! Told you it was stupid!! LOL!!<P>He called the day before XMas Eve at least to wish me a merry XMas....that was better than nothing!!!<P>Have a lawyers appointment tomorrow...maybe will get some answers about doing a mediation......<P>Other than that...not much to report!!!<P>Some guy keeps asking me to move to Aruba with him!!! First is was for a weekend...then I wisecracked that I would want to go there permanently - well, he says he owns a place there and we can go right now....UGH!!!! Would be perfect - I REALLY need to go away someplace - if He didn't come with the deal!!! LOL!!!<P>It's good for a laugh anyway!!!!<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba

alleyoop...glad you are doing well. It is nice, getting it right, isn't it?<P>Sheba, it is a big deal. You do not have to diminish the importance just because you are refering to a dog. You two had an important emotional tie with your dog. The fact that he can discontinue a tradition like that shows how much he has changed his value system. That's sad. Go ahead and grieve that for yourself as well as your pup.<P>Then pack your suit and head for Aruba LOL. How would your dog look in shades?<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hi Karen,<BR>tnt has been taking a break fromt he board because it is depressing - and because she can't get much more depressed now a days! <P>Actually, the SD's are visiting out of state, and things here have been pretty predictable and content. I don't know if my husband can somehow relate the better atmosphere to the fact that the SD's are gone, but I sure can. Needed relief. Wish it would last <P>Did tons of sewing for Christmas, and my sister got me a book that I can't remember the title of at the moment.... The book is a Christian book, written by a Christian Psychologist - I think McGee. It is about self esteem - and how to get it from forgiveness of sins/salvation vs. pleasing people. <P>I don't think I am a people pleaser - but I could be. She said it could take a year to go throught the workbook. This McGee has been giving seminars for a while on this subject, and I guess lots of people have been helped. <P>I think the book title is something like "In search of significance?" ....<P>Hope this time it works, but there are always going to be some "downs" in recovery. Don't throw in the towel - just ride the storm.<P>TNT

Hi everyone,<BR>Seems like everyone had the same idea about MB. I got so angry with H that I wasn't even sure it was a marriage I wanted to rebuild. I almost killed us both. I don't want to be controlled by my rage ever again! He knew that he had gone too far and wasn't sure I would let either of us survive the day. We did and I told him that I was through playing games......s--t or get off the pot! I am NEVER going to eat dirt again! He either helps me continue to fix it or he gets out! No more tears for this old bag! And we seem to be fine. He is all I ever wanted. Why was he such a [censored]......who knows...he sure doesn't seem to have a clue.<BR>Hope you guys survive to fight another day. Life is too short to spend it taking crap! Love you guys.....<BR>Love, Karen<P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<P>