Thank you to both of you that responded. We were invited to a New Years Eve party with another family that has children. My wife was in the jacuzzi with the host and I was outside with them talking. I went inside to start getting our children ready to leave and notified my wife to get ready. I came out about ten minutes later with the children and she was out of the jacuzzi kissing the host good-bye on the lips. We talked about this two days later while I told her I had decided to use the new year and start with a clean slate with our marriage. I wanted her to make a list of what she expected of me as her husband and I would make a list of what I expected of her as my wife. I said I know that we were drinking at the party but that Item # 1 on the list would be, "I don't want you to kiss any other man on the lips." As we talked about some other issues she said "I shouldn't tell you this but I gave the host fellatio while in the jacuzzi. Are you upset with me?" She said she stopped partway.
I was floored to say the least. She also said that since she married young {17}(this is her third marriage) she feels she never had a chance to explore and be "wild". The fact that she did what she did with no regard for the fact that I was there with the children tells me it's time to move forward quickly and quietly with the Divorce. I would appreciate your feedback.

JW,

Man, your wife is having a mid-life crisis! I feel so bad for you, & the fact that she could be so nonchalant about it & careless & care-free. Man, do yourself a favor & move on with another woman who'll truly love you. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

JW,

Let's see: She had a chance to be wild before H #1, She had a chance to be wild before H #2, she had a chance to be wild before H #3, and from the looks of things she may have a chance to be wild before H #4.

What I am saying is that excuse does NOT fly. It never would fly but it surely doesn't fly now. It is time for a serious talk and counseling because she has issues that NOT associated with you.

Please think about this.

God Bless,

JL