Hi Holiday! Things are good, we had a great week, now we are back to normal husband wife stuff....I'm mad he's not helping around the house enought, he thinks I'm nagging blah, blah, blah. Still much better than we were a couple weeks ago. We have health insurance now yeah!! So I can start getting help for my disorder and hopefully our sex life can get back to order. Thank you for checking in! How are you doing?

bottldup, I hear ya. I guess if he gives you a reason not to trust than you have every right to "snoop" until he proves he can be trusted again. I just feel some times that I'm no better than he is.

Dove-Great to hear. We just celebrated our 23rd anniversary Sunday. Keep me posted!

bottledup-If you can't snoop, something's still not right. I see your D-Day was so recent. Give this some time and he, hopefully will understand where you are coming from with all this.

You shouldn't have to "snoop", he should put it all out there somehow if he wants to continue on the right path and keep his M. Have you read the book, Love and Respect, by Dr Eggrichs? It really tells how we as women should talk to our men with respect. I know this sounds prediduce, but it is what the bible says also.

Many women today when craving love from our H sound to them like, nagging, whining, b...hes! And that is the farthest from our thoughts. I have given more respect to my H with my words and delivery of my words in all our conversations. It opens his ears and he wants to talk more.

I have talked to my priest and he had a good point that the more I "nag" the quicker I send him into her arms. It seems unfair, but sometimes I feel like I am the one doing all the work to keep the M going. I pray, I keep my tongue (for the most part), I put on a cheery face. Last night was hard because it was the nth consecutive time he blew me off, even a hug and kiss seem like death to him. I get the eyes rolling and suck it up so as not to get into an argument, but it hurts. It hurts bad. I got to the point that I wanted to call her, but them I remembered, why bring her up and include her if she is not there at the time even if I would figuratively like to gouge her eyes out. I always try to see situations and events as learning opps. This one is tough...mostly because the pain keeps getting in the way.