I posted her before but we are still having problems and I am still in need of advice.
Okay here goes.My husband and I have been married for 7 seven years with one child.We have been together 12 years,since we were 16.He is currently deployed to Afghanistan with the military.This started in December.He had been talking to this girl over yahoo and wanted to leave me,we went back and forth but decided to stay together,then he broke it off with me saying he wanted a divorce.We went through this a few times and as of now we are seperated.This girl has broken things off with him giving the reason as she didn't want to get him in trouble because I decided to involve the army.He is trying to win her back.He says that he has fallen out of love with me.I keep trying to convince him to try to make this marriage work.The funny thing is that as of the beginning of november we were going to try for another baby.He wrote me great letters before this started saying he was sorry for all the things he has done to hurt me.He hasn't talked to any of our friends or his family exept his dad.He is driving away everyone who loves him and I am emotionally drained.He has aggreed to stay married under the rules that he lives with his friend not me,he gets our daughter whenever he wants,he gets to date,and we don't have sex.I told him no.I told him my rules were we live together though not in the same room,and he does not date much less move this internet women over there with him.I haven't gotten a reply yet.My question is do I hang in there in case this has something to do with what he has seen and done over there or do I leave.I love this man and am willing to do whatever it takes to stay with him for me as well as my daughter,am I crazy?Recently he sais he would give me two months after he got back to go seek help.He was mean about it,he said if that is what it takes to convince me he doesn't love me then that is what he will do.His mind changes from day to day though so I'm not sure he will even stay that long.He told our good friend that he don't love me too but I just find this so hard to believe considering the letters he wrote.Could it be that he thinks he's not good enough for us and this is a way to get us to leave?He told me in his letters that I should leave him for all the terrible things he has done to me.I am seeking help of a marriage concelor on tuesday.I want this to work but I'm not so sure he does.Any advice will be helpful.
