well fri we went to see a mc for the first time. we both were nervous. we tryed talking before hand and really got no where. it took my husband two months to get the whole truth out. now it out and th mc i think helped. My husband had a harder time there then i did.we both r on meds for panic attacks. the mc says we both r to tense and need to start to relax. and gave us tips on how to do so. my h sometimes has a harder time with this then me.he says he hates this ow he says he don't know how he lost site of everything. hes afraid im going to leave. he don't understand how i could stay with someone who was so evil.just incase your not formilar my h had i guess two month a with a co pa only once i quess he did'nt finish. it was talking at work and on the phone mostly on his breaks at shcool.it took two months to get all this out.before all the truth came out we were doing so good we realized how much in love we were and how much we needed eachother.then when this other info came out i went backwards.i want these feelings back i know there there.he has changed for the better and even better before he had done this.sometimes i think he cries more then me and i don't know what to tell him. sometimes i hide my feelings and hold back tears because his attacks r worse than mine.but we will go to mc every two weeks for a while. she don't think we need much because she says she sees how much we care and love eachother. Any advice
thanks
ll

LL.
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hi again hoping to bump this up along with getting advice from the top i have another question. Can the WS actully feel more guilty and be more hurt then the BS?My H has been dealing with this latley a lot worse then me?is it okay to comfort him even tho i hurting real bad too.

Thanks

LL