I made it through Christmas!!!!<P>We spent one day with my parents and one day with my H's parents.<P>My Mom asked some pretty direct questions trying to figure out what is going on with us. I was able to answer without answering or lying.<P>My H and I worked hard to practice Joint Agreement and things went very smoothly for us. A couple of times I was overwhelmed with flash anger, and my H saw it and comforted me instead of getting mad himself. <P>I am finding that I am sleepy all the time and have been having a lot of headaches. I'm beginning to wonder if we went one step too high on my meds. I plan on talking to the doctor when he gets back in the office next week.<P>Question?<P>Most of you have done a lot of reading just like we have and have a pretty good grasp on what went wrong in your marriage, right?<P>Well, do you find yourself watching other couples you are close to and identifying all sorts of love busters and even some dangerous "affair causing" behavior?<P>Both of our parents were driving us crazy with the way they treated each other. My sister and brother drove me crazy too. I'm really starting to worry about them.<P>I don't know if I'm being judgemental or if I have just learned a lot.

I have no clue as to your meds. Welbutrin is working ok for me.<P>I know exactly what you mean as far as other couples go.<P>I work with fifteen women all are either married or have a ring and a date.<P>I have noticed that two are prime candidates for an affair.<P>It is amazing how aware I am because of all this. I Gary Smalleys book Winning Your Wife Back he says to become an expert on relationsips. That is what I have done. I see things I never even thought about.<P>My folks were here for a week. They celebrated 32 yuears this summer. They seem to compliment each other so well it's inspireing. They have always done that and I never noticed. They are my great example.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>