Ok Miguel, it's me again! Sorry.
You have 2 threads going (OG has just answered you on the other) and we were communicating on NTM 's thread, so I think it would be best for you to copy your story into 1 thread on General Questions II and ask your questions there, where there are more experienced MBers who will answer.
I also think that YOU SHOULD NOT give advice about others situations. I have been here for nearly 5 months and I don't think that I should. What I'm trying to do now is just guide you towards where you will get the fastest and best results for your questions.
THAT IS WHY I recommend you first READ, READ, READ READ...
If you had read you would know that plan B is no good unless you have carried out a good plan A. That is not your case. Because you have found this website so many months after d day your situation is a little special.
On your subject line ask for help from ORCHID, PEP, WAT or some other vet to catch their attention.
As are devastating to all involved. The pain is really the worse I've ever experienced but MB philosophy helps YOU survive, whether your marriage survives or not. It's been life saving for me and I'm sure for most of the 40000 plus that are registered on the website.
I suspect (from my limited experience) that you will be advised to work on YOURSELF, (as we all are advised) because YOU cannot control your wife, or anybody else for that matter. there are legal issues that you will be advised about (I do not live in USA or europe) and they will helpyou develop and stick to a plan to give your marriage a chance.
Sorry I can't be more help, but I repeat, I am new here, and as a newbie I know that you can become lost on these pages.
Remember READ FIRST. It will help you understand what you need to know to ask the necessary questions and understand the answers.
