First off I want to say that since I had my suspected my W of having an A this site has really given me informative information. Thanks to you all.

Since mid-Jan I've been suspecting my W of having an affair. As time went on, more and more evidence I gathered. Finally i just got fed up with her lying and approached the OMW. She said she was suspious but didn't know where to look, well she got plenty of answers from. Cell phone bills, voice activated recording messages, prints from car just to name a few. anyway all hell broke loose over the weekend. So Mon she goes to work and I'm thinking this will be the day if they are smart end the affair or continue to be stupid. Well nothing wasn't said until the next morning (Tues) and she mentioned that she had a talk with her supervisors because their have been some complaints about me harrassing/stalking people on their job. If I don't have any business in the governmental building then I would be arrested. WTF are these people trying to scare tactics?? Again the OMW and I exchange numbers, she discussed his bankruptcy and the convo lasted for about an hour. Not to mentioned other man along with W are seriff deputies and yes they are the ones carrying guns.

Anyway what I have done now until she's ready to come clean, I put her out of my life and I'm just focusing in on my kids DD 10 and 3 and my house. I have an appt with a lawyer today to discuss my legal options.

i must say that I do very much love my wife which is a wonderful mother. But this A cause her to make some bad moral judgements. Now I must say I bought alot of stress to her by wanting to kick MIL out of house for talking about me to her friends. Yes sh's been living with us since day one, but I don't deserve to be cheated on

Thanks everyone for reading, I'm both mentally and physically drained and i needed to vent

Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is a great place to be under the circumstances. You might want to post on the general questions thread as there is more traffic there.

Sounds like you are doing all of the right things - including exposure. You will be surprised how the OM's wife knowing might help end this thing.

Have you exposed them at work? That might be helpful.

Also if you really are up all night, check out the Idiotville thread. It is mostly silliness, but there are some men there going through the same thing you are facing. You will get lots of support.

Also have you been doing a good Plan A?

I work from 12am-8am so that explains why I'm up all night. But nah I haven't said anything on the job, they both work at different loacations. Remind you that they work for the sheriff office so it'll be some risk involved on my behalf

As far as Plan A right now I'm just keeping cool being nice continuing doing things I would normally do. i used to drink back in the days and it wasn't a problem with me cussing her folks out just to make a point but since I've stopped I'm more laid back and they don't know what to think of me. Also here in my town there has been alot of domestic killings esp a high profile singer which was killed. So yeah she's a lil scared esp being the baby of the bunch and also her first time in trouble

Okay, exposure is good to shed a little light on things. Since you have let the OM's wife know, I would wait awhile and see what happens next.

Try to come here to vent about the situation and don't yell or cuss at home. We understand what you are going through and can help you.