well thanks everyone for the replys to my other post.<P>Today marks the end of my marriage. I'm kanda sad and relieved.(is that possible)<P>W came by to get the kids(mad, of coarse). she had the final divorce decree. we fought alittle bit about the money thing. then I said we were both adults and we needed to talk like it. <P>I told her that i loved her and still wanted her. She said that she loves me too, but this chapter of her life was over. She has moved on.<P>She then told me that there was some one she wanted to start seeing, but he would not see her till the divorce was finnal(HE HAS MORALS).<P>The kids had met him. I asked my son if he liked him in front of her. He said yes he is very nice.<P>The sad part is she is gone. time to rebuild my self, and get it back together.<P>The relieved part is that for those that have been following he is the same race. <P>So i guess i have done all I can do. i need to move on. I will keep coming back. I might need help from one of yall in a diffrent subject. THANKS TO ALL,FOR ALL THE HELP AND SUPPORT.<P>Maybe I can help one of you th esame as you have helped me.<BR><P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

brownphd,<P>This is such a sad day for you. <P>I know how hard you have struggled and tried and given your very best to be the kind of H your W wanted. It is a real shame that she never "saw" the real you and appreciated what a great guy she had right in front of her, instead of searching theworld over and going through so many different guys.<P>The best thing I have seen come out of this is that you appear to have developed a stronger bond to your children and that is wonderful. I hope that you continue to experience the many blessings and enjoyment that only a child can give to a father.<P>Wishing you peace and joy in 2000.....<P>Roll Me Away <P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Roll Me Away- you know you are right. I have come closer to my kids. Maybe this guy will take care of her, and hopefully she wont do to him as she has done to me. <P>This may sound strange talking like this, but it only hurts to think bad thoughts. I dont know how long she has been seeing him, but this past Sunday, Sh etold him that his marrriage was not finnal, and he said he couldnt see her till it was. She could be lieng, Who knows<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

Brownphd,<BR>So sorry to hear the sad news. I'll keep you in my prayers along with everyone here.<P>Keep yourself strong.<P>God Bless,<P>Bob<P>------------------<BR>"You can't always get what you want! But if you try real hard,you might just find, you get what you need!"<BR>Mick Jagger<P>

brown, <P>I have been following your story, and although we didn't cross paths often you have been in my thoughts and prayers.<P>I'm sorry for the pain you are suffering. Since this is the way it is to be, please take care of yourself and pray for a renewal of hope and love in the year 2000.<P>Best wishes...<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>Broken heart, broken promises, broken spirit... let me rest!

I am so sorry. I will be facing that in about a month and like you I will be devasted but also relieved. It will finally be over. My H somewhat feels like your wife. He still has love but can't fix problems quick enough so he would rather start over with someone new. I would have wished we could have started over but his pride will never allow that to happen. Again, I am so sorry and I hope that even though it seems over.....who knows<BR>Nancy

hello brown,<BR>i am sorry for the divorce outcome. I only have (((hugs))) to send and a reminder that you have had so much personal growth thru this time. <BR>((((((((brown)))))))

Thank you all for your support. I dont really know what to say. I dont have much to say anymore.<BR>All I can say is that I appreciate the support, and advice(DAMN THE TEARS).<P>Hopefully he will treat her and my kids good.<BR>I know I will survive this. Just hope it dosent take long.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

{{{{{{{{{{<B>brownphd</B>}}}}}}}}}},<BR>{{{{{{{{{{<B>brownphd</B>}}}}}}}}}},<BR>{{{{{{{{{{<B>brownphd</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>I'm sorry for you...<P>You must know... my prayers will be with you!<P>God will take care of you... <P>Jim

I am praying for you as I light my candle..rest in the knowledge that GOd loves you and he will heal the hurt in time.<P>blessings,<P>lizzie\Pearl<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

Brownphd -- I am so very sorry for you. You know, you really seem to have your head on straight. Pretty impressive for what you have been through.<P>Peace will come, it just takes time, but you seem to be well on the road in that direction.<P>My thoughts are with you and your offer of help to us all is inspiring.<P>--DeWayne--

I will pray for you in the weeks to come. Time will help. I am glad you have grown close to your children. They can be a great source of strength.

brownphd - I am so sorry my friend. I truly believed that things were going to turn out differently for you.<P>Maybe this will be the chance for the two of you to really start you relationship over again..<P>I am praying for you and you know how to reach me if you need to talk.<P>God Bless

Thank you everyone. Its nice to know that there are people like yall out there.<P>EMPY SHELL- I dont know about that. This guy has already started meeting the family. I know that dont mean much, but still. I asked my son (infront of her) if he met him. he said yes, amd he also said he wasvery nice.<P>I should probably leave this alone and get on with my life. I will be ok with this as long as he treats them good.<P>I ahve no other choice.<P>Paul<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>