Hi All,<BR> Think this is a great site.Love all about it.Anyway here goes what i have to say. I would love opinions from anyone who can help me.<BR> I found out my husband was having a affair with a woman he works with,2 days after xmas.I was devasated.We had been married 13 yrs and have 2 children and a grandchild.I kicked him out and he is now living with her.He has no where else to go really he has no family or friends here.Just and excuse i know,but he really dosen't.<BR> My question is am i crazy for still wanting him back?I love this man more then anything in this world and always have.I wont give up on us but i just dont know what to do? PLEASE HELP!!!<BR> I suspected the affair but never thought it was happening because he never gave me a clue,he was home every night except maybe one and he was here every weekend.No short trips to the store,no clues what so ever.We had gone away in Oct and we had a great time and he always told me he loved me.He told me up to the day i kicked him out that he would never leave us and break up this marriage or family.<BR> He has changed so much attitude wise,i honestly thik he is going thru a midlife crisis,he turned 40 in Sept.The OW is not a very respectble woman,she is 43 and within the past 1yr has been with 4 other men including a 25 yr old.Why would a man want a woman like that when i have NEVER in 15 yrs we have been together been with anyone else.I know i am the better woman here.<BR> I just want my husband,marriage and family back.Please help.<P>Devasated

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