Since I have talked to the OP, it seems as though things have changed a bit. The weird part is I feel as if he is <BR>Returning from La La Land. If he is or not I don't know. He has only talked to her by phone a couple times this week and she has left I think 1 or 2 voice mails( he still won't tell me his new password to VM though). I was told by a friend/coworker that WH told him that OP was breaking up with him because she never gets to see him. But there still is contact. I wonder if WH and OP concocted this to tell the friend so it would get back to me. I am treating it like I never heard this piece of info. Hmmmmmm....<BR>WH went to ER a couple nights ago because of stomach probs and turns out he has Diverticulitis. He has been in a lot of pain last couple weeks. One of the meds he is taking prohibits him from drinking which I was VERY happy about. hee hee Maybe without him dullng his mind, he'll actually wake up. Meanwhile, H has not seen OP in person since last week when I talked to her. He has been very nice and more like himself than ever.But, WH won't discuss the A, Writing a No Contact letter, his feelings, counseling anything along those lines. I have done zero LB in a while now and I feel he is seeing that. We have even had some sex but theres a new problem now:<BR>Premature ejaculation<BR>I mean, in for 10 sec. and its over. UGH! this has been happening now for 2-3 weeks He actually apologized for it this am which shocked me. I would also like some foreplay but it more like "ALLLL ABOARD!" and 10 sec later I'm stuck on a train that won't move. Now my question is this: Is he afraid of foreplay because he feels he is "cheating on her"? same with the Premature E thing? I wrote H a letter last night about him needing to tell me his needs and things. I basically rehashed a letter written a month ago. We are still strapped for cash and still haven't gone out yet on a date or anything but, I am spending tons of time alone watching movies with H. I don't know what to do! Any ideas? Maybe creative options to do with him? Any feedback will be a help. Thanks all
