This is my first time using any forum of any kind on the internet. I am looking for any hope anybody can provide for me with my marriage. I've only been married 6 months and my husband has told me he no longer loves me and doesn't have any interest in me whatsoever. Being a new wife, I am trying to adjust to all the responsibilities that come with getting married and a new house, etc.. that I think I may have been too stressed out and taken it out on my husband one too many times. I've asked him that I would do anything to help him find his love for me again but he says that he feels he'd be forcing himself to love me. We dated for 5 years before we got married and I cannot believe that in 6 months all of his love would be gone already. Unfortunately, I think that he doesn't love me anymore and does not want to try and save our marriage because someone else has caught his attention. He has not admitted this to me but I've noticed all cell phone calls to a long distance number 1-3 times daily during times when I'm not around. I think he feels he has incentive because this other person is making him feel really good about himself. I've taken him forgranted but even after I want to change that, he's no longer willing.. He's already made plans this summer to go to out-of-state trips and a couple weddings that he's going by himself (supposedly). I don't know what else to do and would really rather not consider a divorce. But I don't want to stay in a relationship that is only one-sided. Is divorce my only option here or can I still count on marriage therapy? He says he'll go to marriage counseling if I want him to but thinks it's no use.<P>help!<BR>

Welcome <B>Chickabee</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>As far as counseling...<BR>I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<P>There is a lot to learn...<BR>...you are not alone!<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>