Hi! I,m new to this as I found my H of 25 years cheating and asked him to leave the same day! He's been gone one month but comes home 2-3 times a week to get his mail and do his business paperwork. He says he loves the OW. He seems to have a tender spot for me too but no mention of coming home. I am in plan A but am wondering how friendly I should make the notes I send him. Should I keep it casual or should I be romantic or flirtatious? Any suggestions that might make him confused about her would be appreciated.<BR>Please help. Thankyou.

Welcome <B>MAEZY</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do work consistantly on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>Try to think of what your H's emotional needs are...<BR>...and write your notes based on <B>those</B> needs. <P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>