W has not stopped contacting a friend who was heavily involved in helping and promoting the A's. W's friend has introduced her to at least one of the OM's. W's friend has given w's cell phone number so OM could call her. W's friend is a bi-sexual female, who HAS propositioned my W. W's friend is a drug addict. W's friend hangs with Hell's Angels. W's friend has been a prostitute. W's friend is at least a petty criminal on a regular basis. I have asked my W to not see her mainly because of the sexual proposition, but also because of the other immoral and illegal activities. I don't feel comfortable. I do not approve of homosexuals, drug addicts, felons, thieves etc. W has insisted on being able to contact her friend. We have put this issue aside in the past because I felt she would not comply if I persisted. <P>My wife says she has never had sex with her friend, and she has come clean with me. I feel this is like an EA, but it is all twisted up because of the friendship with a homosexual. W insists that the relationship is plutonic. I feel any time the line is crossed, the relationship must end. W does not agree with that. W does not fully agree that it was a sexual propositon. <P> **********<BR>Here's what was said between W and friend (paraphrase): "I think you are so beautiful, and out of any of the women in this world I would want to be with, you top the list." Of course friend said this statement was not a proposition.<BR> ***********<P>We are progressing nicely, other than this. One issue my W does not want to face is guilt. She will get angry when I get sad or mad or suspicious.<P>We have been in counseling for almost 2 mos.<P>Last Wednesday and Thursday my W had 2 full days of doing whatever she wanted w/ minimal checking up. Until this time she has felt like a prisoner. This was mostly self imposed, but she blamed me for it. I immediately told her she could take a couple of hours for herself, no problem. Then the question of "The bar" came up. She wants to go dancing with her girl friends like she has for the last 6 years. She went weekends and during the week. She neglected her kids and me. She stayed out all night 2-3 times a week. "The bar" led to at least one A (one night stand). I began to find clues about Thursday. When I questioned W about days activities (like a cop) she relented to meeting her bi-sexual friend for lunch and shopping. I found a poloroid picture of friend in her purse. I believe my W about 80%. Sounds weird, but there is a chance she met someone else or had sex with friend at a downtown hotel. I know I am acting crazy, but I don't plan to take your advice fully, just looking for the truth. She relented a story that lacks details like names and exact location of the store they shopped. It took four hours to go to lunch, shop one consignment shop and go to the bank.<P>Does her story sound plausible? Is it time for some hard [censored], but kind and loving, Plan A?
