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Ok, I've been posting for a while and I feel we've moved into and are working on Plan A, but I have a question before I explode. <P>I understand the principles of the Plan, no disrespectul demands or anyting that makes her uncomfortable. But it's KILLING ME that she can't "sort" out her feelings for me. Can the fog and withdrawl be so bad for her that she actually isn't sure about her feelings for me? Or is it just the withdrawl and fog not allowing her? I can't take it! When I ask her if she is "still in love with me" she says "I think so". Is this normal, please someone tell me. For those that done't know, she did have an abortion two weeks ago (result of the A). I'm I expecting too much too soon.<P>PLEASE HELP!<BR>Scarlet Pumpernickle
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Yes, the withdrawal & fog can keep her quite confused about her feelings for some time. Best if you can just accept that she isn't going to be clear on things for a while...I just thought of my H as having a temporary form of insanity-- it made it easier for me to keep sane.
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I hope your right, and I hope this torture is worth it. It is the hardest thing to just "sit" there and let her get over this stuff. I know the Taker wants to just start screaming, but for now I'm able to keep him at bay.<P>I want and love her so much, I just want her to feel the same about me, thats all. I guess that fact she ended it, confessed and is still here speaks volumes. I should just be happy with that for now and let the rest come.<P>Thanks Kam ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Scarlet Pumpernickle
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