First time posting, but have been in forums since D-day 8 weeks ago. MB site has been a great help. Jim, your responses as moderator has been wonderful. Thanks. <BR>My husband and I were separated due to stresses with step kids after 10 yrs of marriage. We always loved each other but at the time, his daughter now 20 needed his full attention. I was not supportive of the situation. He lived with his daughter at his mothers house from 5/97 till 12/99 when he moved back with me. When we decided to reconcile, I told him if he had a girlfriend, he is not to come back. He assured me that there was no one and wanted to be with me. Well, you guessed it! He neglected to break off a relationship he was in for 2 years! I finally found out about it through the cell phone. He admitted everything, broke it off with her, changed his cell phone number, e-mail, and vowed he only wanted me. He said he had tried to break off with her numerous times, but she wouldn't have it. I don't believe that. He begged me to stay with him. When he thought I was kicking him out, he confessed to my parents and apologized to them. They have been very supportive. <BR>OW didn't know he was living with me for the last 1 1/2 years. I told her. His daughter and family knew he still was with OW. This has been humiliating to me. H has not made contact with her, although I know she has tried to contact him. He has rejected her. I know this through an early e-mail she sent him. H says he will do anything to stay together. We are in therapy together and he is going alone to work on his lying problem. So now I am in Plan A. I hope I can get over this. I have alot of bad thoughts all the time. We will see. Thanks for listening.