Hi Folks:<P>I'm single. The other party is single but is seeing someone else. We have chemistry... feelings for one another... and he crosses that line with me in the manner in which we relate. No line crossing in that we've been seeing each other on the side or anything. We just have strong feelings for one another.<P>He has to break up with his girlfriend or not relate to me in that manner. (Smokin' looks, angst, etc.)<P>Well... I did a Plan B. <P>Since we could not stop being attracted to one another and responding to one another in a man/woman way instead of friend/friend reactions... I left the situation. <P>I decided that we should not so much as see one another in passing. (He engages in long looks with me... tries pulling me in... and, well, the man does, as I say, "ring my bell". Whoa. It's like seeing a meteor cross the sky.)<P>I never told him this, but I call him a "Gere Stomper". "What's a "Gere Stomper"?", you say? Well a Gere Stomper is a man who when you see Richard Gere on that cover of People magazine, you say, "Those folks ain't never been to "blank"sville."<P>He is that fine. <P>So, anyway, I did Plan B (and made sure his girlfriend found out about his behavior towards me). <P>I figured that way... he would have to fly the straight and narrow. Neither one of us should put up with that. One or the other. All or nothing. No games. <P>I saw him in passing. I was driving down the road. There he was. Usually, he gives me a long look. <P>I was like, "NO!"... so I steeled myself and whipped him off instead (all my friends were shocked that I did that... not like me). <P>Then... saw him again at a 4 way stop. Refused to look. I was like, "NO!" (emotionally)... but more calm. Just blocked him out.<P>My Plan B exploded in an angry outburst.<P>

As I recall, he is already in a relationship with his girlfriend when you became attracted to him. My best advice would be to continue to avoid him altogether. Try finding someone who is not seriously dating (and sleeping) with someone else...you will be better off in the end.<P>Kathi<P><p>[This message has been edited by kam6318 (edited April 21, 2001).]

Laura, I know it is hard to believe this right now but this "gere stomper" has no bounderys that will stop him from doing this same thing to you should you be unfortunate enough to "get him". We are ALL attracted to others for all of our lives. It is my understanding that when one is in a committed relationship that one does not follow through on that attraction. Thank about this carefully.... by the way I am empressed that YOU had enough character, bounderys, integerty to say "not untill you are free". You have done the right thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>Marry