My wife had a short 2 month PA, then her L was tossed in county jail. (so dramatic) The affair then became strictly an EA. I LBd and LBd before I finally found this site, then I went to plan A. Do you think the lack of physical contact will finally kill it or does the lack of reality keep it alive? So far the later has occured for roughly 9 months now woth letters, telephone call and jail visits. L also uses pity to keep her hanging on. He will hang himself, he cant go on in there without some hope. She feels compelled to help him get through his incarceration.