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Can feelings come back? Need evidence!
#45858 12/29/99 09:11 AM
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My wife had an affair, and is still very emotionally attached to the OM. A big sticking point in our recovery is that she has NO desire to make love, hold hands, kiss, hug, etc. This all came easy with the OM, but not with me...although it used to be natural for us some time ago.<P>I would like to hear from anyone who was/is in her position that has made progress...aka, the "feelings" HAVE come back. She has read it, and counselors have told her they will, but she could benefit from hearing it from the folks in the trenches! I am committed to the Harley principles, and am trying to make as many deposits as I can...although she is not always accepting. Thanks for reading!
Re: Can feelings come back? Need evidence!
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MJINGIT,<BR> I am not sure what to tell you since I was in your shoes not hers. From what I have experienced with my H if your wife is no longer having any communication with the OM than I think that the feelings will disappear, but it will take time. This whole process takes lots of time. For us it was the other way around I didn't want him to touch me because he cheated on me. For women we take the touching much more emotional than men (not trying to slam men - just a diffence). With time and at first I let him hug me even though it made me feel miserable, now I love it when he puts his arms around me. We are 8 months into the recovery process which I have been told can take years!!! Hope I was helpful. Just keep posting when you need help, it really does help. Monique

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