I posted an update as POGP "what the counselor said and did"<P>lizzie\smudged Pearl of Great Price<P><p>[This message has been edited by alias (edited December 29, 1999).]

Liz, I know my H's affair was far more brief and he didn't know the OW in real life, so it was less complicated...<P>But, when I found out about the continued phone contact, I really think that was enough for him to end it.<P>I think he was ready...where before he saw it only as something I wanted. I think he though he could let her down easy...and maybe that is what he did.<P>I don't think he thought of the continued contact as dangerous for our recovery or marriage...duh...even after reading SAA. And in a warped way, he was right. In his mind his choice was clear and he was moving forward. Kind of like the smoker with the patch.<P>I loved what the counselor said about ripping up the picture. I plain old loved everything she said.<P>Maybe you could paste or post some of it to Arik's post. He needs to hear it.<P>I hope your H does the right thing!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13