Hello to all <P> I have been in Plan B since last August. Husband recently stated he wants to work on the marriage and we have been to 3 conseling sessions together. Is there anyone out there who successfully did Plan B and then reconsiled for good? If you have I'd like some advice. How did you put your trust back etc.? Did you date for a while? How did your families react? Any comments would be greatly appreciated.<BR> Thanks<BR> Kris

Hi!<BR>I'm not exactly in your situation, but when I was going to counseling, the subject of poss. reconcilliation came up. MY counselor said, in my particular situation, where ex left me for OW, she would recommend at least one year of counseling, both together, and indivual, plus we shoud date for at least a year, before any talk of remarriage. I hope you can use this as some type of guideline. If it makes any difference, this was from a Christian counselor through New Life Clinics, which are throughout the US.

Hi Kris,<BR>Maybe I have told you mys story before....<BR>I did not do a formal plan B, but my H moved out and did not talk to me for 4 months so he was plan Bing me. I kept up causual contact. Then he started to call, and we had several dates... to do the income taxes, went to his Moms, went to a movie.... I think he was trying to bereak it off with OW. He said he was, but still managed to go to Hawaii with her on vacation. GRRR. All this over a 3 month period.<P>After he got back and I found out, I wrote my plan B letter and was ready to give it to him when he asked to move back in in a month. Change of plans. I told him yes, with the conditions of no contact, honasty, counseling. He moved in about 2 months ago now and it has been going great. Although we still are not doing counseling, we are talking and I can tell he is not seeing her. He is affactioinate and open, not hiding things. He was ready and the affair was over. I think he had seen a side to her he didnt like, the rose colored glasses were off. It is easy to trust him because I have found nothing to indicate he is lying. He is like his old self. <P>Both of our families knew about the affair. They have both been supportive of us. Of course mine lives far away so there has been no personal contact yet. One person seemed a little upset, and I just said that I hoped if I could forgive him and restore my marriage, that they could forgive him too.<P>Good luck,<BR>Lora<P><BR>

Kris...<P>After the holidays...<BR>...ask <B>K</B>...<P>He is well on his way... and knows the importance of counseling.<P> <P>Jim