It has been 10 days since I found out my husband of 24 years was having an affair with a much younger woman. I think it has been going on for only a few months. He moved out the next day and in with her. 5 days ago he called me and said he had made a mistake and wanted to get back together. I have met with him since, just for lunch and conversation. I don't know if I am ready to have him move back in yet. He is still living with her but says they are just friends now. He wants to move back in, but I have been telling him he should get a place of his own and we should work on our relationship before he moves back in. By the way, we have 2 teenage sons who are horrified by what he did and they don't want him to move back. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I eventually want to get back together but don't know if we should just plunge right in. Any suggestions?

M,<P>It's been a few days since you posted this? How are things going? Have you picked up a copy of Surviving an Affair by Harley, or After The Affair by Spring?<P>FS

I finally got my copy of Surviving an Affair and started reading it last night. I let my husband move back in just because I wanted to get him away from her. But he was in such great withdrawal that nothing I did worked. He moved back out 5 days later, that was 3 days ago and he started calling again this morning. I'm sure he wants to do something with the boys but they don't want to see him. We just have the answering machine on and don't respond to his calls. Thank goodness I had the locks changed when he moved out the first time and never gave him a key when he came back. I don't know what the next step will be, but I keep thinking of the saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."