It has been 10 days since I found out my husband of 24 years was having an affair with a much younger woman. I think it has been going on for only a few months. He moved out the next day and in with her. 5 days ago he called me and said he had made a mistake and wanted to get back together. I have met with him since, just for lunch and conversation. I don't know if I am ready to have him move back in yet. He is still living with her but says they are just friends now. He wants to move back in, but I have been telling him he should get a place of his own and we should work on our relationship before he moves back in. By the way, we have 2 teenage sons who are horrified by what he did and they don't want him to move back. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I eventually want to get back together but don't know if we should just plunge right in. Any suggestions?

Sorry to hear what you are going through. I know it's very painful. But you have come to the right place.<P>Your marriage can recover from this. My suggestion is that you start by reading all the material on this website and get a copy of the book "Surviving an Affair" by Dr. Harley. It is sold here on this websit, on Amazon.com, as well as in most national bookstore chains. The book is a wonderful road map on how to recover your marriage. (No I do not get a commision.) My husband and I have used the MB phylosophy to recover from his affairs. We are into our 3rd month of recovery and doing well.<P>There are a lot of good people here who can be a support to you. You might want to check out the General Questions II forum also.<P>Good Luck,<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare