wife refuses to admit her affair even to her therapist.how can we get past this when she can't see how damaging it is.the affair was not the cause of are marital problems i was verbally abusive at times but regardless of what i did i don't feel i deserve to be treated like this.om was someone she worked with.i'm still debating on weather to tell his wife.she is unaware.i need help and guidance<p>[This message has been edited by iggy (edited June 12, 2001).]