Please help!!! My H admitted to EA on May 19 and moved in with his mom on May 29 to "figure out what he wants." My question is - When do I ask if he's made any decisions or ask about the progress of his thinking? I'm trying to do the Plan A thing and I've also done a good job of showing him that I am strong and can make it without him.<P>I know this is a short time compared to a lot of other couples on here, but I know he still loves me and sometimes I see signs that tell me he wants to come back. The OW is out of town for 2 months, and he can only stay at his mom's for 2 months, so I would like to get him on the road to recovery while she is away and he won't have to see her. Also she is a co-worker and I would like him to get a different job before she gets back.<P>I know, I'm asking for alot and I know it's not gonna happen. And I know I really can't rush this. But is it too early to ask what his feelings are at this point or is that a Love Buster? Will it seem like I am groveling if I ask him? Also, is it advisable to have sex at this point? <P>Thanks to everyone for all their help!!

My current situation is really similar and I'm looking for answers to questions similar to yours. <P>Advice? I've got none to give, I'm afraid. WS says he needs time away from me to think things over. I know that he loves me, I'm just not sure he loves me the way he wants to love a woman, or the way that I would like him to love me. He is still, or thinks he still is, in love with the OW. <P>He hasn't moved out yet, but is making plans to do so. OW is not around right now, but if his plans go through, he'll be able to see her regularly after we separate (and I won't be able to check up on him, like I can now that he's still at home). Meanwhile, I'm trying not to make things worse between us -- Plan A? -- and it is working, in a way. We haven't been fighting about the situation, so that is at least something. <P>Anyway, I hope someone with more hindsight and perspective than I have answers your post soon. I just wanted to share that I'm going through a similar thing and to wish you the best of luck in getting through this. And if YOU have any advice for ME, I'd sure welcome it!<P>