I have just read Dr. Harley's book SAA, and I'm really confused about how to start Plan A. I plan on confronting my H about him repeatedly breaking the No Contact Rule, withholding information from me, and outright lying to me. This deceptive behavior has been going on for almost two years now, and I feel like I've already been practicing Plan A for a lot of this time. I have his cell phone bills as proof that he is still contacting the OW, and I also have proof that he was lying to me about time he was spending with the OW's sister, who could be the next OW! I really want to demand total honesty and enforce the No Contact rule, but according to the rules of Plan A, that would be a LB. This has been going on for too long, and I need to put a stop to this, and I don't think I have the patience for Plan A. How do I get my H to immediately stop contacting the OW without making demands/LB'ing? Should I just try Plan A and stick it out, or should I skip to Plan B? Thanks for your help!

Zoocrew,<P>I am not a Plan A expert. Did you read the webpage here on Plan A too? It says that the purpose for Plan A is to give you the time to negotate the POJA and no-contact and to get started on the MB program. If your spouse does not go along with this, then you move to Plan B. <P>In my case, I gave my WH Surviving an Affair to read. We discussed the book and both agreed to follow it's advice. <P>Since every situation is unique, perhaps you might want to have a session with Dr. Harley. It seems that your situtation has been going on for so long that you might want to Plan A for a very short time. <P>Don't know if this helps,<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare